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“I do” vs. “I will”

The world is obsessed with weddings. Wedding magazines, wedding expos, reality TV shows, Pinterest boards and romantic comedies have women everywhere blissfully dreaming of the day they say, “I do.” Here’s what culture doesn’t tell you: You don’t have to get married.

After talking about how spouses should treat each other, Paul, a single guy, makes a bold statement on marriage: “From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not … this world in its present form is passing away” (1 Corinthians 7:31). Paul wasn’t saying marriage is wrong. He was saying marriage should not be our ultimate goal in life. Marriage is a gift from God, but it is a part of a world that is “passing away.”

It’s easy to see getting married as the end of a race. We strive to find the perfect person and plan to have the perfect wedding. But marriage, like all of God’s gifts, is designed to do more than bring us happiness. It’s designed to increase our holiness. A great wedding will not fulfill the an eternal longing in our hearts or end our quest for self-worth. But a great marriage will lead two people to do more for God together than they ever could have alone. Let’s not get so focused on “I do” that we forget to say “I will” to obeying Him.


  • Are you focusing on getting gifts from God (like marriage) or thanking God for the gifts you have?
  • If you’re single, how can you use your singleness to serve God?
  • If you’re married, how can you use your marriage to serve God?


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