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Keeping The Peace

Have you ever been red-faced, wanna-punch-something-hard angry? Someone treated you badly and you were really ticked off. When that happens to me, my first reaction is usually to express just how angry I am. It isn’t fair for someone to treat me this way and get away with it. People who behave badly need to be put in their place.

Shortly after these angry feelings bubble up inside me, and I am just about to attack, God puts me in my place: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:2-3). 

But how will that person know how upset I am? How will they ever be punished? And then it seems God whispers to me, “It doesn’t matter.” Sure, they may have messed up big time and really hurt my feelings, but all I can control is my reaction. I can choose to be humble, gentle, patient, peaceful and bear with everyone in love. God will handle the rest, for He is “one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all” (Ephesians 4:6).


  • What is your reaction when someone hurts you or makes you angry? How can you adjust your thinking in these situations?
  • What do you think it means to bear with someone in love?
  • Why do you think it is important to keep the unity of the Spirit rather than act on your angry feelings?

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