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My husband and I often joke about questions we’d like to ask God when we are in heaven. Most questions revolve around why He chose to make men and women so incredibly different. Women like to talk about feelings; men not so much. Men can go periods of time without thinking about anything; women can’t fathom that being possible. She wants to feel beautiful and loved. For him, it is more important for him to feel respected. The differences abound.

If God is so insistent that married couples stay married, why would He make it more difficult by making us so different? If we shared the same desires and needs, perhaps marriage would be easier.

Perhaps. But easy isn’t high on God’s priority list. It is of far greater concern to Him that we realize our need for Him. 

I need Jesus in my marriage. There was a time when He was not the Lord of our union, and we were almost consumed by our own selfishness.

Though the apostle Paul is not speaking specifically about marriage in 2 Corinthians 1:8-11, I think he answers our question about why marriage may be so difficult at times. Paul knew hard times. Life was complex and difficult, and ministry may have felt like one hardship after another. “But this happened that [he] might not rely on [himself] but on God, who raises the dead” (v. 9). 

Our God is a God with the power to raise the dead. He is wise and gentle, omniscient and mighty, and He does not mean for us to do marriage alone. He desperately wants us to surrender our marriages to Him that He might deliver them from what they have been to what He intends them to be. Ephesians 3:20 assures us that we can trust Him “to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine.”

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