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Sex is Present. Tense?

I went to college at Florida State, where girls often sunbathed in bikinis on the field outside my dorm window. Talk about temptation. Does God honestly expect me to be able to turn off all sexual desire until I’m married? No, He doesn’t. The desire will be there, but how I respond to it is my choice.

Jesus tells us to enter through the narrow gate. He’s not trying to make our lives more difficult.  He’s informing us that aspects of our nature will lead us away from God unless we consciously decide to do things differently. The world feeds us so many distorted messages about sex that it’s easy to feel like it’s unfair for God to hold us to a higher standard. But the world sees only the pleasure that comes from sex. God created sex; He knows there’s much more happening than a string of simulations. He sees the covenant connection between a man and woman that was designed for marriage.

The Bible sets high standards for sex because God is concerned about the bigger picture. He knows that true intimacy—the bond between a married couple approaching sex with pure hearts and minds—is infinitely more valuable and fulfilling than a short-lived, physical exchange. The Holy Spirit gives us the power to intentionally choose to refrain from sexual urges and seek help from other Christians in resisting temptation.

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