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Suddenly Strangers

No one said it was done with bad intentions.

The husband works tirelessly to move up and onward, providing for his family. It costs him communion with his wife and time with his children.

The wife, becomes a mother and makes it her sole mission to be a good mom, a nurturer, and encourager of her children. She figures her husband has to work to fulfill his needs for affirmation and leadership. She throws her entire being into the lives of her brood, hardly ever complaining or stopping to rest.

And then the children move out. The commuting years are over. What’s left? Many times, it’s a husband and wife, empty, confused, staring blankly at one another, both asking, “Who exactly are you?”

They’ve been living under the same roof for years. Yet suddenly, they’re strangers.

Malachi 2:14 reminds us fervently that the Christian marriage isn’t just a friendship or platonic partnership. It’s a covenant. Have we forgotten what is supposed to come first? After God, it’s supposed to be our spouses. Not our work, not our children, not our volunteerism, not our friends.

Matthew 19:6 says what God joins together, no man should separate. This includes the well-meaning toddlers, tweens and teenagers who live under our roofs. It includes our bosses, our ministries and our hobbies.

Outright sin is not always the seed that sprouts into separation and divorce. Sometimes the culprit is clothed with good intentions. We must check daily that our marriages are not being subtly, innocently loosened and unbound by well-meaning outside forces.

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