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Session 6

What “they” say doesn’t matter

Read: 2 Samuel 4

If you live for people’s approval, you will die from their rejection.

Anybody who has ever lived through high school knows that is more than just a nice Pinterest quote. It’s the truth.

If we get that promotion, make the team, or score a date with our dream guy/girl, it’s easy to live for the opinion of others when things are going well.

It’s thrilling to ride the wave of approval from people wishing us the best and celebrating all we have accomplished. The problem comes when the wave moves on to the next person or when opinions about us start to change.

If we put our identity and confidence in what others say about us, we will fall apart when we can no longer rely on their validation.

If we put our identity and confidence in what others say about us, we will fall apart when we can no longer rely on their validation.

We see this dynamic in 2 Samuel 4. Ishbosheth was a man who took his courage from another man, Abner, rather than from God. When Abner died, Ishbosheth was broken. In crisis and under pressure, Ishbosheth was paralyzed by fear.

Only faith in God can overcome fear (2 Timothy 1:6-8, Hebrews 13:6). Like Ishbosheth, we’ve been guilty of drawing our courage and confidence from others, but God has given us the strength to overcome through faith.

To find our confidence, we don’t have to listen to the shouts of the world. Instead, we can choose daily to hear the whispers of our Heavenly Father.

Reflect:

  • Is there an area of your life where you have been living for people’s approval?
  • Who does God say you are?
  • What is one thing you can do to remind yourself that what God says about you is most important?

1

It’s OK to allow ourselves to grieve

It’s OK to allow ourselves to grieve

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2

Respecting someone after they hurt you

Respecting someone after they hurt you

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3

When following God, always ask for directions

When following God, always ask for directions

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4

Does God call us to quit?

Does God call us to quit?

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5

Has your anger gone too far?

Has your anger gone too far?

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6

What “they” say doesn’t matter

What “they” say doesn’t matter

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7

Why waiting is worth it

Why waiting is worth it

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8

Why should I ask God what to do?

Why should I ask God what to do?

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9

Sing like no one is listening

Sing like no one is listening

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10

God always has a better plan

God always has a better plan

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11

Why would God choose me?

Why would God choose me?

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12

What is the secret to success?

What is the secret to success?

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13

Come out of the shadows

Come out of the shadows

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14

A life of harmony or hostility

A life of harmony or hostility

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15

What popcorn can teach you about sin

What popcorn can teach you about sin

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16

Did you hear what she did last night?!

Did you hear what she did last night?!

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17

Is God fair?

Is God fair?

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18

The difference between love and lust

The difference between love and lust

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19

Why would I reconcile with God?

Why would I reconcile with God?

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20

Is the work of discipline worth it?

Is the work of discipline worth it?

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21

How do you know who to trust?

How do you know who to trust?

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22

Choose your battles wisely

Choose your battles wisely

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23

How to handle the haters

How to handle the haters

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24

Pride: a fatal flaw

Pride: a fatal flaw

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25

Do you act before you think?

Do you act before you think?

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26

Getting over the grip of grief

Getting over the grip of grief

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27

Do for others what Jesus has done for you

Do for others what Jesus has done for you

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28

Your words can ease the tension

Your words can ease the tension

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29

Is God your last resort?

Is God your last resort?

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30

How do you feel about God?

How do you feel about God?

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31

How to praise God in all circumstances

How to praise God in all circumstances

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32

Waiting for a leader worth following?

Waiting for a leader worth following?

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33

What you need to lead others well

What you need to lead others well

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34

How to fight with God’s strength

How to fight with God’s strength

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35

God’s character revealed

God’s character revealed

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