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Session 9

Dear God, unite me and my spouse

Read: Psalm 133, Colossians 3:12-14

Every couple reaches that moment when there’s nothing left to be said. You have talked, argued, and presented your point of view in many times and many ways, but you and your spouse are at a stalemate. No amount of reasoning will change one another’s mind. 

When relationships lack unity, our gut tells us to talk it out. But what if we’re talking to the wrong person? Conversations bring clarity, but only the Holy Spirit brings unity. 

Conversations with God can change things that talking to our spouses cannot. But instead of asking God to change the other person, ask Him to align your heart with His. 

God is the only one who can cultivate true unity, and praying for your spouse (or your future spouse) is important. You won’t be able to experience a oneness with someone else unless you pursue it with the Lord first.

If you’re single, spending time with God is the best thing you can do in preparation for marriage. Coming alongside someone else is much easier when your core needs are already met by the only One who can fill them.


Celebrate

  • Jesus bridged the gap between humanity and God so we can experience true oneness with God and each other. Thank God for making unity possible. 
  • How have you seen God hold a relationship together in the past — either by changing your heart or the other person’s? As you remember God’s past faithfulness, thank Him for always meeting you where you are. 

Anticipate

  • What is one way you’re hoping to grow as a husband or wife? Tell God where you are most excited to see Him work in your life in the year ahead. 

Ask 

  • What do you need God to change in you so you can be a better spouse (or future spouse)? Ask Him to give you what you need to love your spouse or future spouse. 
  • Colossians 3:13 tells us to forgive others as the Lord forgave us. Is there anyone you need to forgive or ask for forgiveness from? Are you holding any grudges against your spouse? Confess these grievances to God, and commit to loving your spouse like Jesus loves us — unconditionally and forever.  
  • Is there any area of your marriage where you and your spouse need wisdom to know what to do? Ask God to show you the way and unite you in your decision. 

1

Dear God, help me become more like Jesus

Dear God, help me become more like Jesus

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2

Dear God, guide my career choices

Dear God, guide my career choices

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3

Dear God, show me your presence today

Dear God, show me your presence today

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4

Dear God, I need you to come through big time

Dear God, I need you to come through big time

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5

Dear God, heal my body

Dear God, heal my body

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6

Dear God, help me to trust you with my money

Dear God, help me to trust you with my money

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7

Dear God, free me from this financial or relational burden

Dear God, free me from this financial or relational burden

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8

Dear God, I feel so alone

Dear God, I feel so alone

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9

Dear God, unite me and my spouse

Dear God, unite me and my spouse

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10

Dear God, guide my kids

Dear God, guide my kids

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11

Dear God, help me to believe for that relationship I’ve been waiting on

Dear God, help me to believe for that relationship I’ve been waiting on

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12

Dear God, help me to forgive others

Dear God, help me to forgive others

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13

Dear God, I’m worried about my friends

Dear God, I’m worried about my friends

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14

Dear God, help me to not give up on others

Dear God, help me to not give up on others

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15

Dear God, bless my pastors and church leaders

Dear God, bless my pastors and church leaders

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16

Dear God, save people in this place

Dear God, save people in this place

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17

Dear God, send people to do your work and give us opportunities to serve

Dear God, send people to do your work and give us opportunities to serve

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18

Dear God, may there be unity in the church

Dear God, may there be unity in the church

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19

Dear God, would you change the lives of the people in my group?

Dear God, would you change the lives of the people in my group?

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20

Dear God, help us to be bold when it comes to sharing the Gospel

Dear God, help us to be bold when it comes to sharing the Gospel

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21

Dear God, help me make sense of current events

Dear God, help me make sense of current events

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22

Dear God, hear my prayers for our nation’s leaders

Dear God, hear my prayers for our nation’s leaders

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23

Dear God, someone I love is sick

Dear God, someone I love is sick

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24

Dear God, where are you in natural disasters?

Dear God, where are you in natural disasters?

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25

Dear God, stop the violence

Dear God, stop the violence

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26

Dear God, deepen my love and appreciation of your Word

Dear God, deepen my love and appreciation of your Word

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Dear God, help me to not lose sight of your presence when things are going well

Dear God, help me to not lose sight of your presence when things are going well

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