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Session 13

True Transparency

Read: Proverbs 11:2, Galatians 6:2

It’s easy to pretend that life is easy. That nothing is wrong, that you have it all together. This opaqueness is a plague among people everywhere—even in Christian communities.

Why is that? Why do we wish to remain closed in, untouched, secretive? We all have struggles. Why is it so difficult to share them with others?

It’s simply a faulty belief that we are able to go it alone. It’s the message sent to us via so many avenues. Self-dependency and self-reliance are abundant in today’s society, yet we don’t have to submit to this pattern.

The first step in overcoming “going through life alone” is to seek out godly friendships. We shouldn’t just search for people who sympathize. Instead, look for those who sharpen and inspire us. If there is no one around who fits that mold, make it a prayer request. God desires us to have good things, and trustworthy friendships is most definitely a good thing. 

Once we gain a few strong, godly friendships, there are still things that can hold us back from being wholly transparent. One of them may be fear. Fear can be legitimate if we’ve been hurt or betrayed in the past. But, in our fear we assume every subsequent relationship will be just as harmful, and that isn’t necessarily true. Another reason could be pride. We want others to see the best in us.  External, visible failure is something we refuse to divulge. Proverbs 11:2 warns of the effects of pride: “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

Overcoming fear from past hurts, as well as trusting that God will sift out of us our prideful ways, are necessary parts of the journey toward meaningful, edifying, fulfilling friendships and relationships. 

Yet above it all, the first step preceding all of this, is to humbly (and gratefully) acknowledge that we truly can’t do life alone. 

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2


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