3 Sexual Positions The Church Won’t Talk About

God invented sex.

The Bible addresses sex.

Does God want the Church to talk about sex? Seems like it. Has the Church done the best job sharing God’s message about sex? Not always—but we have an opportunity to change that.

Sex isn’t meant to be hidden or forbidden. The message culture needs to hear about sex is not silence or screaming, but to see its significance.

3 Sexual Positions The Church Won’t Talk About

1. Same-Sex Sex

Different groups say different things about gay people, but Jesus speaks the best message to them. He made clear His intention for sex is one man and one woman in marriage (Matthew 19:4-6). Yet Jesus consistently spent time with and accepted people without approving of their sinful behavior because He wants what’s best for everyone (John 8:2-11).

Churches tend to see gay people through only their sexuality, but not their humanity. In reality, all of us are far more than to whom we are attracted. We all need friendship, help, love, and Jesus to rescue us from our sins. The Church is meant to be a place where all people are welcome, no matter which kinds of sins are in their past or their present (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

2. Open Relationship Sex

Open or non-monogamous relationships promote emotional and sexual interaction with people outside of their current relationships and marriages. A TV network even tried—and failed—to bring the swingers’ lifestyle into mainstream attention. The trouble with open relationships is that couples functionally divorce and hook up with someone else without acknowledging how permitted cheating undermines commitment and erodes intimacy.

Yes, sexuality is for sharing—between husband and wife (1 Corinthians 7:2). Relational, emotional, and sexual commitment doesn’t limit the greatness of the marriage, but magnifies it. A pure and faithful marriage is honorable (Hebrews 13:4).

Friends with benefits are fun for a time, but can’t compare to the fulfillment of a loyal marriage.

3. Self-Servicing Sex

Because relationships and commitment are demanding, it’s tempting to seek fulfillment on our own—most often using pornography or lusting over a person’s body. 

If spouses’ bodies belong to each other, acting alone opposes the purpose of marriage: oneness (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). Masturbation turns what God designed to build intimacy between husband and wife into a solo activity. Masturbation is about selfish pleasure, but sex is about shared intimacy and mutual pleasure.

Rather than using Bible excerpts to wound people who hold different perspectives, we can encourage conversations about God’s intent for sexuality.

No matter our positions on sex, we all need healing and help. If we’ve misused our sexuality and relationships, Jesus invites us to turn away from sin and toward Him. If we’re trying to figure out how to have the best sex life, God can help us discover what that looks like.

Rather than using Bible excerpts to wound people who hold different perspectives, the Church can encourage conversations about God’s intent for sexuality, gracefully sharing the truth (Ephesians 4:15).

Visit your NewSpring campus’ Care Room after a service or email hello@newspring.cc if you want help, healing, or to talk or pray with someone.

Related Content

to Discover More

Article

What Would Jesus Say to the Gay Community?

marriage homosexuality sex

There is a lot of noise on the news and in public forums about gay marriage and traditional values. Everyone ... read more

Read Article

Article

Why the church is the best place to question your gender identity

identity homosexuality sex

To share your struggle with others is to risk becoming an outcast. To keep it to yourself is to live in lonel... read more

Read Article

Article

What does "guard your heart" mean in a relationship?

marriage dating relationships sex

Most of us can name at least one sign of a heart that’s in poor physical shape, but recognizing danger ... read more

Read Article

Article

4 blush-worthy things the Bible says about sex

marriage relationships sex shame

Nothing reduces a collegiate art classroom into nervous giggles quite like the sculpture of David by Michelan... read more

Read Article

Article

5 common questions about dating

dating relationships sex

Navigating the dating world as a Christian is a difficult task. There are so many different examples of how t... read more

Read Article

Article

Should I marry my valentine?

dating love relationships sex

Often, people will become so enamored with the idea of being in a relationship that they become brain-dead to... read more

Read Article

Article

Do you know the five things men really want?

marriage love relationships sex

Intimacy is so much more than sex. Men tend to think sex leads to intimacy, yet women often see it the other... read more

Read Article

Article

Do you know the four things women really want?

marriage relationships sex wives

Marriage is God’s creation. It’s a gift and a picture of His love for His followers. God desires ... read more

Read Article

Story

I was insecure about my "manliness"

Sep 13, 2016

identity salvation homosexuality serving purpose sex pornography

Sam Walker felt the pain of sexual confusion until a friend invited him to NewSpring

Read Story

Story

Abortions, rape, and wrecked relationships no longer define me

Jan 15, 2017

forgiveness relationships sex abortion rape guilt

Becca Garvin’s life was scarred by pain, shame and regret, but she found hope in getting past her past.... read more

Read Story

Article

Top Resources on Sexuality

identity homosexuality sex

If you (or someone you love) experiences same-sex attraction, you’re not alone. God doesn’t hate you; He want... read more

Read Article

Article

"Elephant in the Room" Group Leader Guide - Week 3

marriage homosexuality sex elephant in the room group guides

In the third message of “Elephant in the Room,” Pastor Clayton King addressed same-sex attraction and homosex... read more

Read Article

What's happening at NewSpring Church?

  • Need to Know: Weekly email to keep you informed about what's happening at NewSpring
  • Fuse News: Email for Fuse parents sent on the first Monday of the month
  • KidSpring Scoop: Email sent at the beginning of each series to give you the scoop on what's happening in KidSpring
  • Read My Bible: Daily devotional sent via text from 6-7am

Subscribe