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An open letter from a single guy to a single girl

Dear Single Girl,

I don't know you personally, yet, but there are a few things I want to tell you with the hope that I will get to know you someday. Actually, there are five things I want you to know:

How to get a man’s attention

The guy that you are looking for isn't attracted to charm as much as he is godliness because beauty fades but godliness GROWS (1 Peter 3:3-5). I know that the culture will tell you that guys are turned away and intimidated by girls that love Jesus and have strong values and convictions. Culture is wrong; boys may be turned away by strong convictions, but men are not. Be the woman God has called you to be, and a godly man will notice.

Run from “Prince Charming”

Some girls seem to give attention to every smooth talker and cool dresser that comes their way. Please don’t do that; be patient and wait on a man who is concerned with pursuing Jesus, not another trophy. Only give the GROWING, God-fearing man a chance to pursue you. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain (Proverbs 31:30).

I am just a guy, not a god

A guy will crumble under the weight of being your god. No other person can complete you or make you happy. There are lots of great physical and emotional benefits that come from a relationship, but none of it is enough to sustain a healthy loving marriage if your faith is not in Jesus. No guy will complete you, so don't put him on that pedestal (he will fall).

Don’t wait on me, pursue Jesus

From my male perspective, there is nothing more attractive than a woman being obedient to Jesus and taking the risk to follow Jesus wherever He leads. Too many times I notice girls in the church just sitting and waiting on a man to come and rescue them from a life of boredom. When it comes time for me to pick a partner, I want somebody that can be with me on an adventure, not someone that is used to doing nothing and complaining about the fact that no one is interested in them. Pursue Jesus and I will pursue you when He gives me the green light.

Time is not running out

Singleness is a gift, not a curse. Do you want to be beautiful? Put your hope in God and don't give way to fear; trust his timing (1 John 4:18). Don't waste your single years by always waiting on what is next and turning yourself into a man chaser. Let’s follow God right now and trust Him to take care of the next. God is sovereign and able to direct both of us to each other when the time is right.

Until Then,
A Single Guy

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