Grieving? Here’s how to survive the holidays

Beth Marshall

What do you do when the happiest season of all doesn’t seem happy at all?

Whether it’s a scary medical diagnosis, the loss of a relationship or death of someone you love, a traumatic season of life can make the holidays feel overwhelming. Decorating, shopping, and house guests might be more than you can handle this year. Before you decide to pull the covers over your head and wake up in January or start your day with eggnog—stop! You are not alone.    

3 Steps to Survive the Holidays Without Losing Your Mind  

1. Say what you need to say. 

It’s a temptation for many of us, especially when cool weather hits, to spend a lot of time at home, alone. Maybe you’re facing crushing circumstances right now all by yourself. The problem with isolation comes when the little voice starts whispering in your head. The lying, conniving voice telling you, “Nobody understands. Life will always be this painful. Nobody cares about you.” Don’t believe the lies.

The sooner you ask for help and admit you need other people, the sooner you will find relief. To connect with someone who can help, stop by the Care Room on Sunday or reach out to someone in your NewSpring Group.

2. Make a plan.  

Don’t let the holidays sneak up on you. Consider doing things a little differently this year. Plan a time to talk with those closest to you about creating a strategy for the holidays. For example, this year will be the first Christmas for a dear friend since the death of her dad. She and her mom are discussing their strategy, which might include a few days in the Caribbean. 

Would a change in location, menu, or traditions be helpful this year? If the thought of decorating, entertaining, or gift buying is making you hyperventilate, it’s OK to bring it all down a notch. Do whatever works for you. 

3. Be still. 

Tomorrow morning, rather than hitting the ground running, would you take a few moments to be still? Wake up 15 minutes early, find a quiet cozy place away from the noise and chaos, and spend the first precious moments of your day with the Lord.

Psalm 34:18  promises, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” You can know His indescribable peace when you invite Him in.

A great way to experience the peace of God is by spending time with God. If you're not sure where to get started, check out one of these studies.

Related Content

to Discover More


Three ways to find God in grief

death grief

What do you do when one of your closest friends dies unexpectedly at age 26? How do you deal with the pain of... read more

Read Article


A veteran’s daily battle to honor the ultimate sacrifice

death anxiety victory purpose missions grief suffering patriotism gospel

Jonathan Kyle lost two military brothers in combat. Honoring them is a daily commitment to live victoriously ... read more

Watch Story


Shane Moss Wondered If His Life Meant Anything To Anyone

death depression abuse friendship grief drugs

After a life of abandonment and feeling like he never fit in, Shane Moss found acceptance when he came to chu... read more

Watch Story


Feeling down? How to make it when the days aren’t merry or bright

depression christmas grief

The merry-go-round of lyrics that inhabit our minds from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve is in full swing. For... read more

Read Article


Hanging on through the holidays when you’ve lost someone you love

christmas grief

The music, smell of gingerbread, and shimmering lights usually stir up warm holiday memories, but this year s... read more

Read Article

What's happening at NewSpring Church?

  • Need to Know: Weekly email to keep you informed about what's happening at NewSpring
  • Fuse News: Email for Fuse parents sent on the first Monday of the month
  • KidSpring Scoop:Email sent each Friday with the scoop on what's happening in KidSpring.
  • Read My Bible: Daily devotional sent via text from 6-7am