What Women Really Want for Valentine’s Day

Skip the chocolates and flowers. OK, you should probably still get those. But the flowers might last for a week and the chocolates won’t even stay that long. Even jewelry will one day end up in the back of a drawer.

If you want to give your wife something that will last, start seeing her as God does.

If you want to give your wife something that will last, start seeing her as God does. This will not just change your Valentine’s Day, but your entire relationship.

Three Things She Really Wants for Valentine’s Day

1. Listen

One word used to describe love in the Bible is “patient” (1 Corinthians 13:4). Patiently listening to the cares and thoughts of your wife will make her feel valued.

1 Peter 3:7 encourages men to be “considerate” and “understanding” toward their wives. If you’re a man, you’ll likely never really understand women, but you can still be understanding.

2. Encourage

After really listening to what your wife says, offer her kind words of encouragement. Colossians 3:19 tells men to “love their wives and not be harsh with them.” Words hold the power of life and healing or of death (Proverbs 12:18, 18:21). Your kind words to your wife will not only impact your marriage but also her image of herself and her relationship with Jesus.

3. Pursue

We’re not asking you to know every hair on the woman’s head as God does, but pursuit involves paying attention. What does she like or dislike? What does she need? Do those things!

It may take some extra time and effort but Ephesians 5:25 calls men to love their wives sacrificially like Christ loved the church. Pursue her because you love her and because you believe she’s valuable like God declares her valuable.

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