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When suicide seems like the only way

Do you feel so desperate for an escape that you are considering suicide? Is the pain too much to bear?

Jesus knows what it’s like to suffer. He was persecuted, rejected, lied about, beaten, and abandoned. He knows what it’s like to want to give up. When Jesus was on the cross, He felt the full weight of our struggles. But the story didn’t end there. Jesus defeated death once and for all when He rose from the grave, and through Him, you are capable of overcoming your struggles as well (Romans 8:31-39).

If you are having thoughts of ending your life, if you know someone who is, or if you have lost someone you love to suicide, you’re hurting and you probably have questions. That’s OK. It’s OK not to be OK, but you don’t have to stay that way.

Why shouldn’t I give up right now?

Your life is not too messy for God. There is no such thing as too messy for God. The cross is proof that God can take a mess and turn it into a miracle.

This is not too hard, because it is not you who has to be strong enough. God is strong enough (Psalm 46:1-3, Psalm 93:1). He is not intimidated by your circumstances.

You are valuable. God created you on purpose, for a purpose, and with a purpose (Jeremiah 29:11). This is not something you have the power to make or break yourself. Even if you don’t feel valuable, even if you feel messed up beyond repair, that is not your reality in Jesus. You are valuable because of who created you.

You are loved so much that Jesus died for you (John 3:16). He would have died even if you were the only person on this earth.

You are victorious in God. Whatever battle you’re facing — the addiction, the bad business deal, the depression, the overwhelming debt — the freedom and joy that come from knowing Jesus can never be taken from you (Romans 5:3-5).

Jesus defeated death once and for all. No circumstance can change that. If you have Jesus in your heart, there is no such thing as permanent defeat (1 Corinthians 15:55-58).

You are not alone. Not only does Jesus understand how you are feeling (Hebrews 4:15), He is in these trenches with you. The Bible tells us that Jesus walks before us, beside us, and after us, covering us in protection that exists even when we don’t feel it (Deuteronomy 31:8, Psalm 23:4).

God’s potential is greater than your pain (Romans 8:28). God delivered Jesus through death, and He will deliver you through your circumstances.

Your story isn’t over. The Bible says God will complete the good work He has begun in you. Just because you may not see a light at the end of the tunnel right now does not mean the light isn’t there.

Will life ever get better than this?

We know life gets better because Jesus is greater.

Jesus is greater than your impossible situation. Because of His grace, you are more than a conqueror and can handle anything this life throws at you (Romans 8:37).

Jesus is greater than your pain and hopelessness. When Jesus was hanging on the cross, His followers experienced pain and confusion that seemed greater than the potential of their future. But when Jesus rose from the grave He squashed all hopelessness.

Jesus Is Greater Than Death

With Jesus the best is always yet to come. If it’s not good, God’s not done (Philippians 1:6). The cross is evidence that even when things seem chaotic, out of control, and painful, God is sovereign, in complete control, and really will use all things for His glory.

What do I do now?

Ask for help. You can’t do life alone, and thankfully, you don’t have to. You can share your struggles with someone you love and trust. Doctors and trained professionals can help you through this season. In addition to medical care, there are people who would love to pray with you and for you every week in the Care Room.

Focus on Jesus instead of yourself and circumstances you are facing (Hebrews 12:1-2, Colossians 3:1-2).

Claim the truth. Because of Jesus’ death and resurrection, you can live life and you can have life. It’s a gift, and it’s yours for the taking.

You are way too important and you matter too much to God for suicide to be the solution. Life doesn’t have to be something you run from. If you let God, He will complete the beautiful story He has already started in you.

Do people who commit suicide go to hell?

Your faith in Jesus is what secures your future in heaven. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “It is by grace you have been saved, through is a gift from God — not [obtained] by works.”

Suicide is a sin, but it’s not unforgivable. Jesus’ death paid the penalty for every sin — past, present and future (Mark 3:28). Suicide is a selfish decision that lies outside of God’s will for you, but no one can out-sin the grace of God (1 Peter 3:18).

5 Tips for Helping Someone Who Threatens Suicide

Seek professional help.

Someone who is threatening suicide is not thinking clearly. Getting them help is in their best interest, regardless of the push back or temporary anger it may bring.

Do not stay silent.

Suicide can be a touchy subject, and many people are scared to talk about it, but bringing something to light helps destroy lies that are fueling this desperate need for an escape. John 1:5 says, “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”

Look for truth in God’s Word to combat the lies this person is believing.

The Bible tells us the truth brings freedom (John 8:32). You have been placed in a unique position to fight on behalf of this person by using God’s power that is unleashed through His truth.

Lean on God.

If you put the burden of rescuing someone on yourself, you will become too overwhelmed to really help. It is not your job to be a savior; only God can do that (Acts 4:12).


Jesus is the only one who can defeat death, so He is our biggest resource in these situations. The same supernatural power that made Him rise from the grave is the same power that can bring new life to someone’s heart (1 Peter 3:18).

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