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Headed for a heartache

The church at Thyatira had a problem with sex. Revelation 2:20 says, “Nevertheless, I have this against you: That you tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality.” 

Theologians say Jezebel was considered the most evil woman who lived, caring only to satisfy her own selfish desires without thought to how others would be affected.

Perhaps Jezebel was just a woman with a hole in her heart, looking to fill that whole in all the wrong ways. Instead of turning to God, she turned to the power, pleasure and the feeling of being needed and desired that she found during sex. But the feelings were fleeting, so she moved from man to man in an effort keep that hole bandaged.

Our culture teaches us that sex is no big deal, and we may try to tell ourselves that’s true. But our emotions get involved whether we admit it or not. If this weren’t the case, why would so many women write songs about giving everything to a man only to be left with anger, regret and heartache when he walked away? And why do we relate to these songs so well if this weren’t true?

God doesn’t want sex to cause us heartache. That’s why the “beloved” in Song of Solomon warns the daughters of Zion three times, “Do not awaken or stir up love until is so desires.” The more intimate we become, the more love is awakened.

Go slow. Keep your focus on God, who desires you most of all. He will bring you fulfillment, and He will never break your heart.

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