Session 13

It takes three to make a thing go right

From Song of Solomon: A-17 Day Devotional

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is possible, we still have questions:

  • Why do I need to marry to experience this?
  • Even though I am married, why am I not experiencing such closeness?

For many of us, reading about how Solomon delighted in his wife seems like is nothing more than a fairy tale. We grow weary of waiting, so we jump ahead of God's plan or run away from it completely.

But no matter how hard we try to create intimacy on our own, we can never experience the full joy God intends for our marriages if we're not putting Him first in our relationships. Whether you’re single or married, learning to rely on God's grace and God's strength is the first step to experiencing the oneness Solomon and his wife shared.

This means that if you’re single, God’s desire is for you to experience joy and contentment where you are right now. Maybe you’ve been married or had sex. No sin is too great that God’s grace can’t cover it. When we trust God with our dating lives, He gives us strength to remain pure and grace to overcome our pasts.

If you’re married, God’s desire for you and your spouse is to be one. He gives couples the strength to stay together and build a life together. And, He gives us grace as we learn to love each other, forgive one another, and communicate with each other.

The kind of relationship Solomon and his wife experienced takes time and commitment. It’s not a product of self-help, but a daily decision to listen to Jesus and do what He says — no matter how impatient we get with the process.


  • If you’re single, what’s one area of your dating life that needs to be surrendered to Jesus? If you’re married, what’s one issue where you and your spouse are divided?
  • What can you do this week to approach that situation, whether married or single, with God’s grace and strength?

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Devotionals From This Study

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Session 1

Do you and God share the same view of sex?

For many of us, the heat between Solomon and his wife feels like a fairy tale. We’ve grown up in a world that tells us sex is dirty...

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Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

Over time, the word “love” has been stretched and twisted to describe things we feel strongly about, but don’t actually...

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Session 3

Say what’s on your mind

Solomon and his wife aren’t that different than a lot of couples today. The woman is insecure about the way she looks, and the man ...

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Session 4

Life is better when experienced together

When was the last time you put down your to-do list and Twitter feed long enough to experience the good things happening around you? Laug...

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Session 5

What would you do for the one you love?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done for the one you love? Maybe you got a tattoo with that person’s name or tried som...

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Session 6

Are you protecting your marriage?

With 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it's clear that many of us are not equipped for the challenges we enco...

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Session 7

Never run out of nice things to say

How would you complete this sentence: “God loves me so much …”? Maybe we would acknowledge His immeasurable grace and...

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Session 8

God made sex, and it is good

“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride…” (Song of Solomon 5:1). Is Solomon describing what it sounds like h...

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Session 9

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches. How we face these situations can break...

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Session 10

Why you should marry your best friend

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervousl...

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Session 11

Who do you love more than your spouse?

Who is your best friend? Most of us think of childhood friends we played with, college roommates we got into trouble with, the parents we...

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Session 12

The honeymoon doesn’t have to end

Picture an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands, looking just as in love as they probably did 50 years ago? We see that a...

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Session 13

It takes three to make a thing go right

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is ...

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Session 14

Who makes the first move?

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy proposes to girl. They live happily ever after. Books, movies, and even th...

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Session 15

Why love is worth waiting for

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our ...

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Session 16

The best way to beat temptation is to fight it together

Whether single or married, the temptation to stray from purity is always lurking. In Song of Solomon 8:9, the girl’s friends say, &...

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Session 17

The love story you want is worth waiting for

Just like health blogs and magazines teach us to eat better, exercise more, and get a decent amount of sleep, the media we consume teache...

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