Session 15

Why love is worth waiting for

From Song of Solomon: A-17 Day Devotional

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our hearts light up at the thought of finding the kind of love we see experienced in the all too famous Nicholas Sparks movies. 

Our God-given desire to love and be loved by someone can become distorted and even destructive if not kept in its proper time and context. If you have ever seen “The Bachelor,” you know this to be true. One man, or woman, goes on a number of dates with multiple contenders hoping to find a spouse. Forget taking your time to get to know one another, you’ve got 23 more dates and millions of viewers to keep happy.

When we take the good desire for love and insist on having it right now, on our terms, someone always gets hurt. That’s the reason why the woman in Song of Solomon begs her friends not to awaken love until it’s proper time, saying “Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready” (Song of Solomon 8:4, MSG). 

Impatience and lack of trust in God’s timing can take something that was meant to be so sweet such as love, and turn it into something so sour such as pain and regret. 

Take a ripe apple, for example. It is not only fresh and delicious, you are also able to enjoy it. The same thing is not true, however, for an apple that is picked outside of its proper season. Not only is the premature apple sour, you are also unable to enjoy it. 

In the same way, when we excite love before it’s proper time, we are robbing ourselves of the pure, refreshing taste of love sprouted in God’s perfect timing. Just like an apple that is ripe, there is a sweetness to allowing love to bloom its proper season and context. 

Like the couple in Song of Solomon, we can rejoice when we take our time and find real love. The love that God wants for us is one not forced or hurried. It does not end in destruction or regret. When we choose to trust God with our love story instead of writing our own, we reap the joy of love that has reached its proper and rightful season. 


  • Have you ever experienced a time where you have awoken love before it’s proper time? What kind of pain and regret do you have because of it?
  • Have you asked Jesus to heal your regret and pain and allow you to walk in freedom?
  • Do you trust God with your love story? If not, what is a practical next step you can take to lay down the pen to your own love story? 

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Devotionals From This Study

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Session 1

Do you and God share the same view of sex?

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Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

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Session 3

Say what’s on your mind

Solomon and his wife aren’t that different than a lot of couples today. The woman is insecure about the way she looks, and the man ...

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Session 4

Life is better when experienced together

When was the last time you put down your to-do list and Twitter feed long enough to experience the good things happening around you? Laug...

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Session 5

What would you do for the one you love?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done for the one you love? Maybe you got a tattoo with that person’s name or tried som...

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Session 6

Are you protecting your marriage?

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Session 7

Never run out of nice things to say

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Session 8

God made sex, and it is good

“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride…” (Song of Solomon 5:1). Is Solomon describing what it sounds like h...

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Session 9

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches. How we face these situations can break...

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Session 10

Why you should marry your best friend

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervousl...

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Session 11

Who do you love more than your spouse?

Who is your best friend? Most of us think of childhood friends we played with, college roommates we got into trouble with, the parents we...

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Session 12

The honeymoon doesn’t have to end

Picture an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands, looking just as in love as they probably did 50 years ago? We see that a...

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Session 13

It takes three to make a thing go right

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is ...

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Session 14

Who makes the first move?

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy proposes to girl. They live happily ever after. Books, movies, and even th...

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Session 15

Why love is worth waiting for

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our ...

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Session 16

The best way to beat temptation is to fight it together

Whether single or married, the temptation to stray from purity is always lurking. In Song of Solomon 8:9, the girl’s friends say, &...

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Session 17

The love story you want is worth waiting for

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