Session 11

Why it’s important to reconcile, not just forgive and forget

From Win at Home: A 14-Day Devotional

Ever notice how the morning after a big fight nothing feels quite right? It doesn’t matter who you blew up at — your roommate, your spouse, or your kid — the tension in the air is unmistakable.

Repairing a relationship often takes more than muttering "I’m sorry" and moving on. Real reconciliation requires repentance.

Proverbs 28:13 says, “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” Nothing gets resolved by pretending everything is fine, but expressing genuine remorse and taking steps to make it right? That is how reconciliation begins.

It takes one person to repent, but two people to reconcile. The person who has been hurt has a choice to make as well: Will you choose to forgive?

Bitterness is empowering for a moment. After all, who doesn’t like the feeling of being right? But bitterness will destroy a relationship if we give it a home in our homes. Holding onto bitterness and refusing to forgive is one common way we repay evil for evil (Romans 12:17).

The Bible challenges us to be peacemakers. “... as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). We can’t make someone else repent, but we can choose to forgive. That part of peacemaking is entirely up to us.

Reconciliation is focused on restoring broken relationships, not approving of someone’s sin. It’s acknowledging the sin and choosing to repent. It’s seeing someone’s vulnerability and choosing to forgive. And when both sides participate willingly, it’s a perfect picture of what Jesus did for us.

Reflect:

  • How does conflict get resolved in your home? Or, does it?
  • Where trust is deeply broken, restoration is a process—-sometimes, a lengthy one. Is there anyone you need to take a step toward today?


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Session 1

We don’t win at home alone

Have you ever had one of those days where everything that could go wrong, went wrong?If you’ve ever experienced tears of frustration and ...

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Session 2

Are our priorities in the right place?

There are two great indicators about where someone’s priorities lie: their schedule and their budget. Money and time are both finite reso...

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Session 3

Being present is more important than being perfect

We don’t have a monopoly on hurried lives. Past generations bemoaned the same struggle. Simon and Garfunkel’s 1966 hit “Feelin’ Groovy” b...

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Session 4

God knows more about what your people need than you do

We ask God to do lots of things in the lives of those we love, but when’s the last time you asked God what He wants to do in the lives of...

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Session 5

Are you putting off what you desperately need?

Ever been on the receiving end of this text: “Do you mind if we stop by to bring a meal and hold the baby for a bit?”If you’ve ever welco...

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Session 6

What changes when we trust God

The news bombards us with possible dangers, from phone scams to burglaries to hackers on social media. No matter our age or stage of life...

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Session 7

Is the Holy Spirit leading our hospitality?

In Luke 19:1-10, a tax collector wanted to see Jesus. He was too small to see over the crowds, so he climbed up a tree to get a better lo...

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Session 8

Generosity always wins the day

If you’ve ever traveled to a third-world country, you’ve seen the paradox that less is more.Americans will look around and say, “They hav...

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Session 9

Be ready to give a reason for your hope

The word “evangelism” can be intimidating. We imagine knocking on doors or preaching on a soapbox on the streetcorner.But what if evangel...

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Session 10

If we want to win, we have to forgive

The assumption is that a good marriage is one where you always agree. A happy family is one where no one loses their temper or gets on an...

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Session 11

Why it’s important to reconcile, not just forgive and forget

Ever notice how the morning after a big fight nothing feels quite right? It doesn’t matter who you blew up at — your roommate, your spous...

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Session 12

The battle for your home is as much a battle for your mind

I don’t have what it takes to be a good parent.I doubt anyone would come to a group in my home.God can’t use me because of what I’ve done...

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Session 13

Winning often doesn’t look the way we think

Some wins don’t result in trophies or medals. Just ask the mom who had three hours of sleep, but still got everyone to school on time. Or...

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Session 14

When you win, so do those around you

We are taught that to win, someone has to lose. We see this in sports, business, and entertainment. One person’s victory is another’s def...

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