Sex Is Great For The Church

John Weirick

God is pro-sex.

The Church should be, too.

3 Ways Sex Is Great For The Church

1. Sex is a celebration of commitment.

Marriage is unique because it doesn’t just happen. It’s a lifelong commitment a man and a woman choose to make (Matthew 19:4-6). Sex between spouses expresses that they choose each other and belong completely to each other.

When we’re loyal to our own spouses in bed and in life, we acknowledge the importance of commitment.

The best thing for your marriage is to stay faithful to Jesus and faithful to each other.

Husbands and wives can stick with each other through ups and downs because Jesus is with us through every success and every struggle.

Marriage is picture of Jesus’ commitment to the Church (Ephesians 5:22-27). He loves us, makes sacrifices for our benefit, and makes our lives better. He doesn’t give up on us when we mess up or fail to return His love. He will never abandon the Church He started and sustains.

The best thing for your marriage is to stay faithful to Jesus and faithful to each other.

2. Sex improves intimacy.

Married couples reinforce their marriage when they’re sexually and emotionally satisfied with each other (Hebrews 13:4).

None of us can do life alone, and married couples are the most basic community of people sharing life. Stronger intimacy means they’re able to speak honestly, deal with conflicts, and take more next steps together.

Selfishness is the enemy of intimacy. Sex is not a weapon for spouses to use against each other, but a gift to enjoy together.

Withholding sex from each other works against intimacy in marriage. When one of the most powerful and personal actions is turned into a bargaining chip, everybody loses (1 Corinthians 7:2-5).

God’s wants us to enjoy sex while protecting our marriages (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). Marriage is not an excuse for husbands to force their wives do things sexually that they’re not comfortable with, nor is it an excuse for wives to manipulate their husbands to do something around the house.

Intimacy is fragile, but it thrives in the stability created by two dedicated spouses.

3. Sex is about serving.

Using sex any way other than expressing love is a terrible abuse of a good gift.

If a man and woman learn to serve each other well in the bedroom, they’ll learn how to better serve each other outside the bedroom, too. God created us to serve. Being more concerned about our spouses’ happiness than our own well being helps us find more contentment than selfishness can offer (Philippians 2:3-4).

If we live with an attitude of putting others’ interests before our own, we’ll serve other people and the Church better so more people can meet Jesus. He is our example: Jesus didn’t expect to be served, but became a servant to others (Mark 10:44-45). He’s the one who created marriage and shows us how to sincerely love.

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