Why You Feel Isolated in a World of Social Media

DeAnna McEntire

Are social media followers really important?

We live in an age of social media where we often confuse followers with friends. Social media gives us the impression that we are connecting when we are really isolating from deep, intimate relationships with others. We’re left feeling alone even in the midst of constant communication, but how do we overcome that?

You don’t have to get lost in the social media frenzy of trying to gain followers who can’t provide what friends do. The Bible offers timeless wisdom about the importance of real, deep relationships and why to pursue them.

5 Reasons You Should Pursue Friends Over Followers

1. God created us for intimate community.

We were created to have intimate relationships; God never desired for us to be alone. Since the beginning of creation, God knew it was not good for Adam to be alone, and so he created Eve to live in community with him (Genesis 2:18).

When we isolate, we give the devil the power to lie to us. One of the reasons God gave us community is so we can be encouraged by others instead of deceived by the enemy (Hebrews 3:13). It’s powerful to have people in our lives who remind us of right and wrong.

2. God Himself lived in community.

As Christians, we look to God for examples of how we should live. God the Father has always lived in community with Jesus and the Holy Spirit. We see from the beginning of the world that God had community in the form of the Trinity (Genesis 1:26).

In addition, God sent the Holy Spirit to live inside of His followers, who work together as the church (Acts 2:1-4). Connecting with real people is a way we imitate God’s character of community.

3. Real friends are honest.

Social media can create surface level relationships that are not honest. It gives us the ability to show what we are happy about and often makes it appear like our lives are perfect. We do not generally post our struggles or real thoughts for everyone to see.

When you are not real with people, you cannot have deep relationships. Real friends share doubts and insecurities, and encourage one another through challenges (Colossians 3:9-10).

Knowing about someone is not the same as knowing them.

4. We desire to be deeply known and not just known about.

God desires to know us in a deep way, and because of that we desire to have others know us as well. However, knowing about someone is not the same as knowing them (Psalm 139:1-6).

On social media, we may know about a lot of people — but we may not know them on an intimate level. Having real relationships allow us to deeply know others and allow them to know us past surface level facts.

5. They point us to Jesus.

Having real friends gives you the opportunity to share challenges (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). Your friends have the privilege of giving you advice that comes from the Bible. Even when you feel far from God, real friends can/ point you back to Jesus and remind you of truth you may have forgotten.

Social media in itself is not a bad thing. However, like anything in this world, it can become overused and abused. Instead of pursuing social media followers, seek deep relationships with other Christians that can draw you close to Jesus.

Related Content

to Discover More


What happens when you Facebook binge

relationships culture friendship jealousy social media

Our lives may be all around pretty good: loving families, deep friendships and jobs that pay the bills. But g... read more

Read Article


How a football star shined in the darkness

family evangelism community relationships friendship grief

High school standout Jacory Benson racked up yards and acclaim, but his no ordinary family changed the game.

Watch Story


What does "community" actually mean?

trust community relationships friendship

We hear the word “community” a lot, especially around church. But what is it, really?  We have relationships... read more

Read Article


This is what real love looks like

love relationships friendship

“Can you two come over for dinner after church?” she asked.  We were caught so off guard we accepted without... read more

Read Article


How to give good advice

community relationships bible prayer friendship

When a fellow believer is struggling with their in-laws, navigating a difficult work situation, or when I enc... read more

Read Article


My gift of a “spiritual mom” and friend when I needed one

relationships prayer parenting hospitality friendship discipleship mothers mentoring

 Allie Struble’s surprising connection with volunteer Cinda Fischer was the turning point for her growth into... read more

Read Story

What's happening at NewSpring Church?

  • Need to Know: Weekly email to keep you informed about what's happening at NewSpring
  • Fuse News: Email for Fuse parents sent on the first Monday of the month
  • KidSpring Scoop:Email sent each Friday with the scoop on what's happening in KidSpring.
  • Read My Bible: Daily devotional sent via text from 6-7am