Session 30

How to deal with anger

From Proverbs: A 31-Day Devotional

No one likes a distracted driver. It’s the woman looking down at her phone after the light has turned green. It’s the guy who cuts off the mom in a minivan while negotiating a business deal. Brakes squeal. The minivan driver lays into the horn. The person who has been waiting to get through the light lets out a few choice words and hand signals.

It’s easy to let frustration get the better of us on the road. But the reality is cursing at other drivers doesn’t get us where we are going any faster.

The same is true for any conflict we find ourselves in. To be angry is not a sin, but how we respond to anger can be. Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Giving full vent to our anger doesn’t change the situation. In fact, it can make it worse.

Maybe you don’t express anger through gestures or words, but instead, choose to bottle it up. Holding anger in is just as sinful as blowing up. Unconfessed hurt turns to bitterness and resentment, which separate us from God and others (Psalm 66:18, Mark 11:25).

God knows the motives of our hearts; He is not fooled by outward appearances. As we share our struggles and open ourselves to correction, God frees us from sin. Correction may not be easy to hear, but the path without correction is far more dangerous. Proverbs 15:10 says, “Stern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path; the one who hates correction will die.”

It is hard to allow someone to correct us. Pride tells us to be defensive and stand our ground, but through discipline, God draws us closer to Him.   

Reflect:

  • Think of a time when you acted impulsively. Looking back, how could you have handled the situation differently?
  • What do you do when someone hurts your feelings? Do people know when you are angry or do you bottle it up?
  • How do you respond to correction? As you reflect on how you respond, is there anyone you need to apologize to?

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Devotionals From This Study

Session 1

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Session 2

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Session 3

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Session 4

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Session 5

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Session 6

How to know who is worthy of honor

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Session 7

Do you believe God is awesome?

Like Agur, the author of Proverbs 30, we’ve all hit a wall where we realize we can’t answer the big questions of life. While ...

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Session 8

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Session 9

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Childhood meant dealing with many “good” things that seemed devised to make us suffer. Were we really supposed to believe th...

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Session 10

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Session 11

Lying won’t get you what you really want

Remember the rush of getting away with a little white lie as a child? Maybe you said you cleaned your room when really you stashed the e...

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Session 12

Is God mad at me?

We want to spend time with Jesus, but we forget to set the alarm clock and oversleep instead of reading the Bible and praying. We know co...

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Session 13

Why you need to be leading you

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Session 14

So you want to be wise?

Most of us know ‘the look.’ It’s the face mom makes when she catches us digging into the cake for the church social. It...

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Session 15

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Session 16

Flirting with trouble is more dangerous than you think

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Session 17

Is the way you handle conflict adding to the drama?

When was the last time you got really jealous? Maybe your younger sibling got married before you. Maybe your best friend bought a house y...

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Session 18

You can’t do the right thing without the right heart

When you were younger, your mom probably advised against snacking too much before dinner. But inevitably the hunger pangs would get the b...

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Session 19

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Have you ever sat through a history, science, or even a math class and thought, When will I ever use this? It’s easy to let knowle...

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Session 20

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Session 21

Learn to own your mistakes

If a group of teachers was asked to create a list of the most common excuses students make, “He/She made me do it” and &ldquo...

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Session 22

How to win in every disagreement

Ever had a discussion turn into a heated disagreement? You both believe you’re right and want to change the other’s mind. It&...

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Session 23

How do we know what’s true?

Turn on the news and you’ll hear two contradictory phrases in one sentence. Everyone’s calling everyone else a liar and talki...

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Session 24

How to avoid getting pulled in again

Few things are as terrifying as being swept up by a riptide or strong current. Before you realize what’s happening, you are out of ...

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Session 25

Passing down wisdom is the best gift you’ll give your kids

As parents, we hope our kids can turn down drugs, alcohol, and pornography without hesitation. If only we could will them to make better ...

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Session 26

Why you should care what other people think

Everyone is born with a boatload of foolishness (Proverbs 22:15). Our natural tendency is to choose poorly and experience bad consequence...

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Session 27

There’s no such thing as “get rich quick”

More than 40 million people visit Las Vegas, Nevada, every year, and each one gambles an average of $530 in an effort to hit the jackpot....

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Session 28

Why the party scene won’t make you happy

From movies to music, our culture seems to hold the party scene on a platform and shout, “This is where you’ll find fulfillme...

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Session 29

Use your words for good, not evil

We are all guilty of running our mouths and hurting other people. Without even stopping to think, we open our mouths and out come our opi...

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Session 30

How to deal with anger

No one likes a distracted driver. It’s the woman looking down at her phone after the light has turned green. It’s the guy who...

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Session 31

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