Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

From Song of Solomon: A-17 Day Devotional

Over time, the word “love” has been stretched and twisted to describe things we feel strongly about, but don’t actually love.  

“I love chocolate.”  

“I LOVE that movie.”

Those aren’t bad things, but the way we feel about chocolate or a movie is not a good representation of what love is. The Bible describes love as patient and kind. Love is assuming the best, trusting others, and persevering in hard times. Love causes us to put others first and not keep a record of each other's failures (1 Corinthians 13).

Where genuine love and commitment exist, there is no fear of deceit, manipulation, or exploitation. 

Loving someone is hard work. But where genuine love and commitment exist, there is no fear of deceit, manipulation, or exploitation. Just look at Solomon and his wife.

As Solomon’s wife sings her husband’s praises, she also confesses her own fears and insecurities. She’s not unattractive, but she feels as if that’s true. Almost as if he senses her fears, Solomon rejoices in her beauty, exclaiming: “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful!” (Song of Solomon 1:15).

Real love is like that. It delights in building others up and assumes the best. It doesn’t demand anything in return.

Too often, we think great chemistry just happens. But great chemistry starts with a commitment to love sacrificially. Practicing self-sacrifice each day creates security in a marriage, increases our desire for spouses, and lights beds on fire (Song of Solomon 1:16).

Reflect:

  • How frequently do you say you love people or things?
  • What’s one way that what you read today changes your view of what it means to love?
  • What’s one way you can help your husband or wife feel more secure in your love? Not sure? Take some time this week to ask your spouse what you do or say to make him or her feel loved.

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Session 1

Do you and God share the same view of sex?

For many of us, the heat between Solomon and his wife feels like a fairy tale. We’ve grown up in a world that tells us sex is dirty and e...

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Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

Over time, the word “love” has been stretched and twisted to describe things we feel strongly about, but don’t actually love.   “I love ...

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Session 3

Say what’s on your mind

Solomon and his wife aren’t that different than a lot of couples today. The woman is insecure about the way she looks, and the man must d...

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Session 4

Life is better when experienced together

When was the last time you put down your to-do list and Twitter feed long enough to experience the good things happening around you? Laug...

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Session 5

What would you do for the one you love?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done for the one you love? Maybe you got a tattoo with that person’s name or tried something compl...

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Session 6

Why love is worth waiting for

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our ...

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Session 7

Are you protecting your marriage?

With 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that many of us are not equipped for the challenges we encounter in marriage. ...

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Session 8

Never run out of nice things to say

How would you complete this sentence: “God loves me so much …”? Maybe we would acknowledge His immeasurable grace and mercy, or the way ...

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Session 9

God made sex, and it is good

“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride…” (Song of Solomon 5:1). Is Solomon describing what it sounds like he is describing in ...

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Session 10

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches. How we face these situations can break...

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Session 11

Why you should marry your best friend

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervousl...

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Session 12

Who do you love more than your spouse?

Who is your best friend? Most of us think of childhood friends we played with, college roommates we got into trouble with, the parents we...

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Session 13

The honeymoon doesn’t have to end

Picture an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands, looking just as in love as they probably did 50 years ago? We see that a...

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Session 14

It takes three to make a thing go right

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is possib...

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Session 15

Who makes the first move?

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy proposes to girl. They live happily ever after. Books, movies, and even th...

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Session 16

The best way to beat temptation is to fight it together

Whether single or married, the temptation to stray from purity is always lurking. In Song of Solomon 8:9, the girl’s friends say, “If she...

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Session 17

The love story you want is worth waiting for

Just like health blogs and magazines teach us to eat better, exercise more, and get a decent amount of sleep, the media we consume teache...

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