Session 10

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

From Song of Solomon: A-17 Day Devotional

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches.

How we face these situations can break our marriages or make our marriages. Facing problems together can bring spouses closer. Fleeing from problems separately can push spouses farther apart.

In Song of Solomon 5, Solomon and his wife describe how overcoming difficulty helped their relationship grow stronger. After the wedding, real life set in. Like a lot of spouses, they took for granted that the other one would always be there.

If you're married, you know what this looks like. Doing things together turns into watching things together. Texts become more functional than fun. Kisses happen in passing rather than out of passion.  

Eventually, Solomon's wife became cool to his advances. She came around, but in the time it took to regret her reaction, Solomon had left. Her self-centeredness and impatience, though brief, caused separation. But she quickly moved to correct the problem by searching for her husband. She decided to face the problem instead of run from it. She chose to correct the problem instead of compounding it.

When problems arise — and they will — you can either work through them together or you can allow them to fester and cause separation. You can fight in your marriage or you can fight for your marriage. The choice is yours.

Reflect:

  • What problem(s) have you been running from instead of facing together?
  • Are you fighting with each other in your marriage or are you fighting for each other for your marriage?

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Session 1

Do you and God share the same view of sex?

For many of us, the heat between Solomon and his wife feels like a fairy tale. We’ve grown up in a world that tells us sex is dirty and e...

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Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

Over time, the word “love” has been stretched and twisted to describe things we feel strongly about, but don’t actually love.   “I love ...

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Session 3

Say what’s on your mind

Solomon and his wife aren’t that different than a lot of couples today. The woman is insecure about the way she looks, and the man must d...

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Session 4

Life is better when experienced together

When was the last time you put down your to-do list and Twitter feed long enough to experience the good things happening around you? Laug...

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Session 5

What would you do for the one you love?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done for the one you love? Maybe you got a tattoo with that person’s name or tried something compl...

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Session 6

Why love is worth waiting for

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our ...

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Session 7

Are you protecting your marriage?

With 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that many of us are not equipped for the challenges we encounter in marriage. ...

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Session 8

Never run out of nice things to say

How would you complete this sentence: “God loves me so much …”? Maybe we would acknowledge His immeasurable grace and mercy, or the way ...

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Session 9

God made sex, and it is good

“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride…” (Song of Solomon 5:1). Is Solomon describing what it sounds like he is describing in ...

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Session 10

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches. How we face these situations can break...

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Session 11

Why you should marry your best friend

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervousl...

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Session 12

Who do you love more than your spouse?

Who is your best friend? Most of us think of childhood friends we played with, college roommates we got into trouble with, the parents we...

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Session 13

The honeymoon doesn’t have to end

Picture an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands, looking just as in love as they probably did 50 years ago? We see that a...

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Session 14

It takes three to make a thing go right

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is possib...

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Session 15

Who makes the first move?

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy proposes to girl. They live happily ever after. Books, movies, and even th...

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Session 16

The best way to beat temptation is to fight it together

Whether single or married, the temptation to stray from purity is always lurking. In Song of Solomon 8:9, the girl’s friends say, “If she...

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Session 17

The love story you want is worth waiting for

Just like health blogs and magazines teach us to eat better, exercise more, and get a decent amount of sleep, the media we consume teache...

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