Session 11

Why you should marry your best friend

From Song of Solomon: A-17 Day Devotional

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervously you wonder, “What will I say? Will he like me?”

New love feels so exciting and fun. Everything the other person does is cute. Just hearing her name makes you smile. He’s so handsome. She’s so beautiful. It feels so right; surely you’ll be together forever.

But, feelings are just that — feelings. Feelings are fleeting. One reason Solomon and his wife experienced such an intimate relationship is because it was founded on more than physical attraction. They were best friends.

It takes time to develop a deep friendship with a person. The excitement of love can cause us to overlook important factors in compatibility. Do you have similar interests, share the same beliefs, and hold the same values? Does God’s calling on your lives compliment each other? Is this a person you can do life with for the rest of your life?  

Our looks, jobs, interests, and health can change over time. But marriage is a lifetime commitment. Take the time to form a friendship that will grow with you. A marriage built on more than feelings will not only survive challenges and changes, it will thrive.

Reflect:

  • When you think about what makes someone a good friend, what characteristics come to mind?
  • What is one thing you can do to be a better friend to your husband or wife this week?

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Devotionals From This Study

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Session 1

Do you and God share the same view of sex?

For many of us, the heat between Solomon and his wife feels like a fairy tale. We’ve grown up in a world that tells us sex is dirty and e...

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Session 2

Great chemistry doesn’t just happen

Over time, the word “love” has been stretched and twisted to describe things we feel strongly about, but don’t actually love.   “I love ...

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Session 3

Say what’s on your mind

Solomon and his wife aren’t that different than a lot of couples today. The woman is insecure about the way she looks, and the man must d...

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Session 4

Life is better when experienced together

When was the last time you put down your to-do list and Twitter feed long enough to experience the good things happening around you? Laug...

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Session 5

What would you do for the one you love?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done for the one you love? Maybe you got a tattoo with that person’s name or tried something compl...

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Session 6

Why love is worth waiting for

Love is fun, adventurous, and enticing. The human heart seeks to know and to be known. We desire the beautiful mystery that is love. Our ...

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Session 7

Are you protecting your marriage?

With 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that many of us are not equipped for the challenges we encounter in marriage. ...

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Session 8

Never run out of nice things to say

How would you complete this sentence: “God loves me so much …”? Maybe we would acknowledge His immeasurable grace and mercy, or the way ...

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Session 9

God made sex, and it is good

“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride…” (Song of Solomon 5:1). Is Solomon describing what it sounds like he is describing in ...

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Session 10

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

In life, we are going to face problems. And in marriage, we are going to encounter rough patches. How we face these situations can break...

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Session 11

Why you should marry your best friend

You finally get the first date with your crush. You spend hours getting ready, daydreaming about how perfect everything will be. Nervousl...

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Session 12

Who do you love more than your spouse?

Who is your best friend? Most of us think of childhood friends we played with, college roommates we got into trouble with, the parents we...

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Session 13

The honeymoon doesn’t have to end

Picture an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands, looking just as in love as they probably did 50 years ago? We see that a...

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Session 14

It takes three to make a thing go right

The intimacy God created for marriage rivals no other on this earth. And while we want to believe a relationship like Solomon’s is possib...

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Session 15

Who makes the first move?

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy proposes to girl. They live happily ever after. Books, movies, and even th...

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Session 16

The best way to beat temptation is to fight it together

Whether single or married, the temptation to stray from purity is always lurking. In Song of Solomon 8:9, the girl’s friends say, “If she...

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Session 17

The love story you want is worth waiting for

Just like health blogs and magazines teach us to eat better, exercise more, and get a decent amount of sleep, the media we consume teache...

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