Session 10

Loving Jesus The Most

From It Starts With Me

READ: Matthew 22:37, Colossians 3:1-2

You don’t get to have a godly relationship without first being godly yourself. Instead of pursuing a relationship, spend your time pursuing Jesus. He’ll take care of the rest. 

Even as a middle schooler, you may have thought about eventually getting married. While you probably picture a happy, fun, romantic life as a married man or woman, that doesn’t just happen overnight. It starts with me, and it starts with me loving Jesus more than I could possibly love another human. 

Many of us think that we have gaps that can only be filled by our soul mate. The truth is that no matter how “perfect” the person you end up with may be, it still won’t be enough. If you want to have dating relationships that are successful in the eyes of Jesus, you have to seek Him, ask what He wants for you, and listen to what He thinks about dating. It starts with you submitting to Jesus. Only after you’ve gotten to the point where Jesus is your everything will you be whole enough to make a good wife or husband for someone else. 

So don’t wait until you’ve met that person that you want to be with. Don’t wait until college is over to be more selective about who you date.

Put Jesus first now and trust Him to bring about the right person at the right time. By doing this, you’ll get His best for you and avoid a lot of unnecessary heartache. 

• Think about your current relationship(s). Is there anything about them that hurts your relationship with Jesus? What could you do practically to put Jesus first? 

• The Bible makes it clear that Jesus’ highest priority for you is to love Him. Do you live like He is your highest priority? Spend time journaling through where you are at in your relationship with Him. He can handle the truth!